Just a nudge.

Sweetie's Birthday 2016.

When we lived in California, we had a circle of friends that we would celebrate special days with. We had many a birthday party for each other. It was when we moved to Albuquerque, we never seemed to find that group of people again. So, in 2016, I asked folks and friends from church to send her a birthday card. This was the result of that request. I seemed to make up for all those other years. She loved it. 

This year, we get the card from our insurance agent, our financial agent, and maybe one from a friend or two and that is just fine. She doesn't know, and is happy to get anything addressed to her, even though she can no longer read it. 

I told you about asking her oldest daughter to be her caregiver. Got the answer, and at the same time, it is a way for her to say no. She wants to know what I have in mind. Start off with the primary reason is my support group meeting. We will work from there. Keep you posted. 

Had another fainting spell yesterday. Twice in two days. Usually they have some time in-between incidents. I had tried to get her up at my scheduled time. She just wouldn't go for it. I could tell that maybe it was going to be a re-charging day. 

After letting her sleep some more, I did get her up, and changed. She had leaked through her pullups and I had to wash the sheets. After she was up, changed and had breakfast, I was getting her ready to head out for the mall and a walk, then she swooned on me. So glad she did it at home, so sorry she did it again. So, I laid her down, covered her, and put a pillow under her head. She breaths so shallow it is scary. I've learned that when she does this, covering her, and let her recover is the best thing I can do for her. I don't try to get her up until she ready to get up. 

I'm going to check with my lady to see if she can provide some training for the daughter. Have her spend some time learning on how to handle her mother, without me being there. I think my absence with encourage her to accept the job. Start with one day a month, or two days a month, and see how it goes from there. 

"Just look how far you've come." is what my Driver has told me. From being upset because family isn't helping, to ways to encourage them into the picture. There are always ways to get things done, that I haven't thought of yet, and then there's Driver, just nudging me along. Sometimes that is the best way, a nudge. The same with the kids, no demands, just a nudge or two in the direction that is most helpful for the both of us. Isn't that the way it is, driving on the Road to Dementia Town, just a nudge to keep in the middle of the road, as we keep our Shiny Side Up. C'ya, Luv ya, and God Bless.